I'm going to tell my gf that I'm trying to explore my femininity, and that i might be transsexual.  She knows i use some beauty products, that i wear women's slacks and some shirts, that i don't like my genitals and body hair, and that i do a lot of crafts and talk more about women's clothing and such than i guess she's use to, but she gets worried when i mention my hate of my body or my preference toward femininity.

I have an email that I plan on sending to her on my days off so we can spend that time to come to terms.  The email expresses my feelings about myself, my intentions to start acting feminine and dressing approprately when not at work, and my support for her, and asking for her support, as well as why i'm writing the letter instead of telling her in person.

It's terrifying, and i was wondering if anyone knows of better ways to out onesself to their partner.

Does anyone have any success stories, or even some failure stories for advice for the other ladies that are contemplating telling their loved ones?

talk to her, it is best Way, make sure she knows she no going to lose you

listen too, she probly yr best friend so she knows you 

little steps til you find yr Way

and its ok make mistakes, its how you learn

good luck, be safe

suzi x

I did tell her, but I didn't tell her exactly everything.

After a long night of crying on both ends and near breakups, we kind of came to an agreement.

I did unfortunately backpedal a little, and while i had originally intended to state that i wasn't at all sure about my gender, and that I'm most likely female. I actually ended up saying that I still considered myself male, but just a very feminine male.

That answer she accepted, and did take a few days to take in.  The whole event is really fuzzy, i just remember mentioning what i had originally wanted, coming to a comprimise, then us not touching, or her shying away from my touch for that night and most of the next day.

This was maybe 3-4 weeks ago.

Since then, things have gotten a lot better. I've switched almost all of my undergarments to female, and when not at work, i dress completely en femme, with a lot of hints from teh gf.  i've been a lot happier, and a lot more affectionate en femme, and gf has loved it.  I'm still not happy with where i am, I still am questioning transition, but for now it's alright.

Since i didn't mention before, the compromises we made were:

• No full XDressing (she's not ready for that)
• No skirts (she's turning around on that, let me borrow her skirt)
• Don't be dressed en femme when her mom is around (She lives with us and is fairly old, and gender confusion would cause some issues)
• No Makeup (changing on that one too)
• Help gf out with beauty products and test out procedures (talking to estetician about full body wax for us, along with laser hair, and i know more beauty product info than her)
• Help gf out with her clothes (hey, i've got style and i love it)
• Don't be a bitch (obviously)
• Don't flaunt my size (She's plus size, which she doesn't like)