Hi and hello,

I am here to ask for advice, my family does not know and, i have to go ahead and do someting real this time, if i don´t do it this time, i won´t do it in the rest of my life.

But , ¿how to tell them?

Monica

Hi Monica...I would start with a family member that your really close too.Tell that person first and take it from there.Good luck to you :) Rhonda XO

Thank You Rhonda, it is not that easy, ¿or is it?.  I wan´t to belive ... i don´t have the courage (guts)... ¿does anybody have any other ways? ¿writing letters?, ¿use a common friend?, ¿send a postard/picture?, ¿do I have to do it just like that?, the fear won´t let me.

¿any clues?

Xmonica...do you have a very close friend that you could tell and trust?I showed a gay friend of mine years ago that I was crossdressing.To my amazement he never spoke to me again.He has no time for men who dressed up like a woman.So all gay men are not into crossdressers.I told a lesbian friend that I crossdressed and she found it cool.Here the girl she was dating at the time had a friend who was crossdresser also.So you never know who will accept you and who won`t.If you don`t have the courage to tell anyone close to you.Try this it worked for me,if you never went out dressed up you must do it on halloween.Tell them you have a party to go too and its a Victor/Victoria party,where the men dress up as women and vice versa!Email them and tell them.Whoever you do tell you must trust 100%.Once again best of luck to you :) XO   

the way i handled this was to start off slowly and get people used to my feminine side. I started with growing my hair out long and plucking my eyebrows, then i started shaving my legs and body. I would dress feminine and wear make-up in a very subtle way, just enough to attract a bit of attention. I slowly began to emerge more and more feminine until people would ask questions. It was much easier to explain my actions than it was to find a good time to just come out with it. this eliminates the shock factor. It is harder to accept a person who has always been very masculine suddenly wants to dress and act like a girl than it is to accept someone who has always been kind of feminine. When i finally came out to friends and family that i wanted to be a girl, it was expected and much easier for them to accept. The worst thing you can do is hide your true side and then suddenly become someone else. Take it slow and keep it subtle at first then you will just evolve into it. it will be much easier for everyone to accept the slow progression than a sudden and total transformation.

Rhonda: Thank You, ... , i will make a list of friends and see how it goes.

Daniela: -Why haven´t I tought of that before? YES, step by step will lead my way.

Thank You All, I will keep you posted ... Hugs.

xMonica

ok, now i have longer nails, will work on my nails and eyebrows.